Be Bold; Be Beautiful; Be Daring; Be Different and Be First!
Eleanor Roosevelt said that “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”.
When you’re feeling down, and your thoughts are invaded by negativity, use these keys to help you to remember just what a fantastic person you really are.
I am definitely my worst critic. In fact, I was the best at it. No one could make me feel lower than myself. I know when I started down this path, and I had to put a stop to it. I want to share these five ways to remind you just how amazing you are.
I hear so many people say things like, ‘O, I feel so worthless and undeserving’ or; ‘I don’t have what it takes to be awesome like everyone else’ or; ‘My spouse will never change, I have been living in this misery all my life’ or; ‘life’s not fair, I always get the raw deal’.
When those thoughts come along like a flood, you have to put a STOP to it! Let’s face it, in reality, we all have things on the other hand, which we can be proud of and also show that we are truly unique people. So we will think of those amazingly great things and remember what an awesome person you really are.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
Here’s one sure way you can do this by not trying to “keep up with the Jones’s” in real life behind closed doors they are probably in the same situation if not worse than most of us. Now stop beating yourself up over someone else’ fabricated persona, which you imagine to be the real deal and by the way. It has nothing to do with you, by you meditating on their ‘so-called’ fabricated lives it is very damaging to who you are and what you were meant to be. So many models, fake families, and movies on television distorts the real image of who and what life is meant to be.
So while you are getting rid of the “make-belief people” I want you to throw out the image of “who you are Supposed to be”; supposed to be with, thought to have, supposed to do, supposed to look like. If we could stop trying to live up to some of these damaging ideas and be the real YOU, we would be happier. By eliminating the “supposed to be” you will be able to see the things, you are doing right.
We will be a better version of ourselves; the loving, positive person that you want around you; be that for yourself and for others.
Call things into being as though they were!
Ask me, I know how difficult it can be to step back and take a look at ourselves objectively, I’ve transformed my life by eliminating all negative self-talk and limiting thoughts about my life. I decided not to give my power away to others as with the negative words I spoke lost its ability.
Follow this easy exercise that helped me:
In your journal, make 3 columns.
- On the left, write down all the negative thoughts that constantly bombard your mind and causes you to have these limiting beliefs about who you are.
- In the next column, write down what are the possible ways in which those negative things can be turned around and what you can do to change it.
- The third column writes down their priority. Which action will you need to take first and second etc.? There might be ones that really is not a big deal at all so just eliminate it from the list and work on making the positive changes to the ones that really matter.
I have had a million to do’s in my head, which made me feel like I’m not accomplishing anything. But as you take some time out, as I have done to make a list of the “millions” of things to do I started a ‘not to do list’ I have managed to delegate some tasks to my team and others so there are not millions of overwhelming ‘to do’s’ in my head any longer.
Next; Love yourself first.
As a mom, I have consistently reminded my daughters about being kind to themselves. When they would say things like, “I’m not that bright, or so and so is so intelligent I tell them to stop talking about themselves like that because I love them.” They end up laughing because they know what it is that I am referring to before I can quote the scripture they say it first. So, in future, when you hear or even think of any negative self-talk, you have to take control of the thought, the lie! And replace it with the truth speak it, “Don’t talk about me that way” You are a fantastic person, you are Beautiful and well Balanced you remember that!
Now don’t live by the world’s standards and expectations, especially when it goes against your values, this is a sure way to an unhappy and unproductive life..